One of the leading causes of depression and loss of energy is inner accounting. It is a continual feeling of being owed something. Trivial things like feeling grieved that someone didn’t greet one, or not take one’s phone calls, can make one unnecessarily feel neglected.
This amounts to keeping an account internally with the feeling of not being given one’s due, whether it is wanting that others should treat us better or being resentful of one’s talents not being appreciated. It causes a lot of negative thinking where one keeps repeating these thoughts, inviting depression and weakness of character. This weakness manifests much more when the chips are down and others do not sympathise with us.
- Tug of war with control (thoughtsinmyheart.wordpress.com)